To become a good conversationalist, you need to become interesting. And to become interesting, you need to experience many different things so that you will have different, unique experiences to talk about.
Once you have unique experiences to talk about, you will find it much easier to start a conversation.
One way you can do this is to go traveling.
I know it can be super expensive and it might not fit into your schedule, but you'll grow as a person and expand your conversational repertoire because of it.
If you can't afford to go by yourself, or with a friend, consider going on a missions trip through a church (the church will sometimes help out financially - and it can be a great place to meet some girls).
Take a minute to brainstorm ideas right now.
Any type of traveling will work - just try and turn it into an adventure. I'm sure you wont find it too hard to come up with something that could be an adventure.
Go on a road trip. Go camping or hiking. It's all about the experiences that you can have, the pictures you can show and the stories that you can tell. That's what will make you a better conversationalist.
Suddenly, talking to a strange girl will be no big deal once you've been lost in the wilderness, or have taken the wrong train in Europe.
Take the road less traveled, and enjoy the ride. Live. Don't be totally consumed with tomorrow and your future that you forget to live today. It's not worth it in the long run.
Girls love adventure, fun and spontaneity. And if you go (or have gone on a few adventures), then they think that you could be fun, exciting, and spontaneous.
Once you've done a few things, then you'll have some experiences to draw on in conversation, making it easier for you (as your stories will come across naturally), and much more interesting for them. |
