Let's just admit it! Single women want what married women have. Married women want what single women have. We look at what the other has longingly, thinking that the other has it just a little better than we do. Single women dream of having someone who holds them tight, whom they can sleep with every night. Married women dream of having the bed or better still, the house all to them. Single women watch with a twinge of envy, as married women seem to blow through their money, and then finagle more from their husbands. While married women muse of what life would be like if they could make their own financial decisions without having to explain its rationale to their husbands. Single women wish they could marry the man knows them through and through. While married women get a little annoyed that their husbands know what they are thinking, feeling, and doing, sometimes even before they realize it. It goes on and on. "If I could just have what they have, my life would be so much better" We can sometimes reach the point of obsession wishing for what others have. That obsession may lead to resentment, low self-esteem, bitterness, adultery, hasty divorce, hasty marriage, loneliness, depression, and addiction. Where does it come from? Why are we so dissatisfied with what we have? Is it human nature? Is it the American way? Is that why half the marriages in this country end in divorce? Do we foolishly jump into a marriage because we think our lives will be better, and then have to divorce because we realize we have made a mistake? Or maybe we marry for the right reasons, and then feel dissatisfied and become determined to divorce? If you are divorced, please do not be offended by what I am saying. I am not against it. However, I am perplexed by some marriages I see take place, and some divorces I see happen. After many years of wondering why, here's what I have found. Some marriages and divorces would never commence, if both parties fully appreciated what they had. If we could fully appreciate who we are, what we have, what we do, and those in our lives we would have more peace. We would be able to make smarter choices about what we want and need. Better still, the universe would bring to our lives exactly what we need at the time that we need it. I know it is not easy to appreciate your life all the time, especially if you live in the USA. We are constantly receiving messages that what we have is insufficient, that we need more or better. However, we must make it a practice to be thankful for what we have and appreciate the smallest things in our lives. Try this: the next time you feel like your life has a deficiency, began listing all the little things you really appreciate. Before you know it, you will not have room for feeling deficient because you will see your full life. If you keep this as a regular practice, you will attract more goodness into your life than you ever thought possible. |
