Perhaps you don't meet people in the course of your daily life, or you're not connecting with the right type of person. First of all decide what you have to offer to a future partner, by working out what sort of things interest you. No one is going to like all these options, but they are ways of widening your circle of friends. 1. GOLF Golfing is a male activity, get lessons and join them on the course. Men network on the golf course all the time, take it further and progress to flirting. Even if you are not good at sports, the men will most often be encouraging of your efforts. 2. GO TO A SPORTS BAR ON GAME NIGHT Why watch big sporting events at home when you can hang out a sports bar complete with big-screen TV, electronic sports games? This is a particularly good way to meet people if you are sporty yourself, impress the guys with your knowledge. Sport is a participation event and it is a lot more fun watching in a group than alone. 3. VOLUNTEER TO WORK FOR A NON PROFIT ORGANISATION People who are prepared to give a little of their free time are often very caring people, capable of passion and commitment, there are loads of group activities, that mean you can widen your circle of friends, with the same interests. There is always the possibility of a relationship progressing to a date. 4. JOIN A POLITICAL CAMPAIGN If you are politically inclined and have an interest in which you are prepared to give up some time, this is a good way to find a date. Not only that but you can be sure if you have both joined to fight for the same cause, then you have at least one thing in common. If it does not work to find a date than you have lost nothing, but will have at least widened your circle of friends. 5. EVENING CLASSES You do not have to be academic here, it is not necessary to study Physics. Find out about something that you have always wanted to learn. Take the time to study another language, or do something "arty". Art classes depending where you live, cover a very wide base from sculptor, to water colors. Men can always be found in a class about car maintenance etc. 6. TAKE SOME CRITICISM FROM YOUR FRIENDS Marketing yourself to find a mate is not always easy. Take some advice from friends who have embarked on a successful long term relationship. If you are always attracting the wrong sort of person, ask a friend why they think that is the case. If you have a healthy emotional life, you should spot fairly on in a relationship that someone is going to hurt you. Realise your own worth, some women do really believe that they are not worthy of being loved. Boost your self esteem. If low self esteem is a problem, then try and look at the tip below. 7. ENROLL IN A SELF-IMPROVEMENT WORKSHOP Men sometimes tend to be more into self improvement than women. However, any body who has taken the steps to enrol and participate in this type of activity are probably sensitive, the chances are they are also looking to interact with other sensitive people. It's a great way for men to find out how women think. Be positive you may not meet the man of your dreams but will probably have boosted your self esteem. 8. JOIN A GYM Even if you are fit and healthy you can always find men in a gym. If you are not fit, then getting fit is a great way to boosting you self esteem. Being fit gives you a better outlook on life and you feel much better. You are also more relaxed when you look your best. 9. READ "IF THE BUDDHA DATED," BY CHARLOTTE KASL Buddha means the enlightened one, or one who is awake. Kasl gives you the best advice about how to make, but very significant changes in your life. Part of her advice is to literally make room for a partner in your life. If you have a single bed get a double, if you have only one pillow buy more. She also has some great tips for attracting new people in your life. This isn't mandatory by any means but it will appeal to you once you start reading. 10.STAND BACK AND TAKE STOCK Men are not lost souls, they are not hiding away. You will have far more chance of connecting with someone if you are personally fulfilled. If you are into sports big time consider competing in a marathon. Take a creative writing course, change you career. Make yourself happy, and have some fun 11 JOIN A HISTORICAL SOCIETY Even small towns have historical societies, which will search and record the local events in your area in the past. Most of the will probably be male. 12. GET COOKING O. K. so you know how to cook, often men do not and they will join a cookery class. This is a good one - believe me. 13. LEARN HOW TO PLAY POKER Most poker players are men, find out how to play, and then join a game. 14.GO TO A BOOK SIGNING Here is were you can guarantee that you will find someone with similar interests and intellectual pursuits. 15. MAKE MEN FIND YOU Since the earliest days of mankind, a woman can show a man she is interested in him, the smart one's let him think he is doing the chasing. This is the twenty first century and you can show a man you are interested in him. Catch his eye and then immediately look away, but then look back at him. If he finds you attractive, he will think he has fond you, and will most often make a move. |
