The Law of Two Questions

There are two questions that couples must ask and answer:

1. What do I want?

2. How do I help you get what you want?

Regularly asking these questions can contribute to some fairly powerful teamwork and a constant sense of connection.

Imagine what it would feel like to have someone close to you who knows what you want out of life and is committed to helping you get it.

The Law of Conflict, Part 1

Much conflict is the result of failing to ask one or both of the above questions. Also, an over emphasis on either one of these two questions above can lead to trouble as well.

The Law of Conflict, Part 2

Conflict is simply an inevitable part of being with someone. Living with another human being can be messy at best.

One problem is that most of us go into marriage so terribly unprepared to handle the conflicts that inevitably arise. All relationships have conflicts, it's how you handle them that makes all the difference.

The Law of Fighting

While conflict is inevitable, fighting is not. It's always a choice. The choice involves deciding that being right or getting your way is more important than the relationship.

The Law of Driving

Here's a law that could improve, perhaps even save many marriages:

Please don't drive while Im driving!

Jeff Herring

Jeff is a marriage and family therapist, singles and relationship coach, mentor coach, speaker, syndicated relationship columnist and author.

Jeff has a full time private practice in Tallahassee in which he specializes in couples, teen and parent counseling. He also is a relationship coach specializing in working with couples and singles. Some of his professional activities include:

==> Internationally syndicated relationship columnist through Knight-Ridder/Tribune Media Services, with a weekly readership of over 10 million worldwide

==> Sought after speaker for organizations, associations, churches, and corporations

==>Twice weekly appearances on The Steve and Sara Show on Magic 107.1

==> Author of "Keep the Changes: 52 Tools for Successful Living" a collection of his best columns, as well as several e-books including "How to Create a Passionate and Loving Relationship.........Forever," "How to Beat the BOZOs: Dealing with difficult people without becoming one," and "Tame Your Teen: THE survival guide for parenting your teenager.

==> Founder and CEO of TheArticleGuy.com

==> Founder and CEO of SecretsofGreatRelationships.com

==> Founder and CEO of ParentingYourTeeanger.com

==> Founder and CEO of ToolsforSuccessfulLiving.com

==> President of BuildingYourIdealPractice.com

==> President of ConsciousDatingTallahassee.com