As a Dating and Relationship Coach for men I have run into far too many men who equate quality with good looks. For some men this equation is perfectly acceptable. If all you are looking for is a one night stand or a very casual relationship with no strings attached, then it is perfectly acceptable to base the quality of your women on looks alone. However as a dating coach I rarely run into these types of men. What I get is the guy who comes to me saying "I met this really hot woman at the club a couple of months ago and at first everything was great but now she is making my life a living hell and I don't know what to do!" The easy answer is to leave, the men usually know this but some part of them thinks that she will either change on her own or he can change her. Many women who have been emotionally or physically abused in the past do a great job of hiding it at the beginning of a relationship. In fact part of the reason you may have been connected too her in the first place is because she was able to reveal many aspects of her life that made you feel sorry for her and want to protect her. At the beginning this worked out great for you, she felt protected and loved and in turn had great sex with you, perhaps even before she felt anything for you. However, once comfortable in the relationship and secure in the knowledge you are not going anywhere she turns cold and the great sex you used to have is no longer and you hardly get any at all. What has happened is you are now paying for he abuses that other men have done to her and you will continue to pay for it as long as you are with her, until she gets help and even then there is no guarantee that she will stay with you. The other option is simply to leave and be with a woman who s ready to show you the kind of Love that you deserve and want. Men who are in these types of relationships stay for only two reasons, either she is really hot and you don't think that you will ever find another girl as hot as her who will want to be with you or you are holding onto the beginning of the relationship when times where great and you cant let go of that memory. Once you realize that you can have beautiful women in your life and even though the beginning of this relationship was great it is in the past and its time to move on to create more great memories with other woman and hopefully one day one of them will stick. You will suddenly find yourself living in Heaven on Earth. |
