In a love relationship, we don't have to always agree with our partner, or even see things the exact same way.

We do need to be able to step into the world of the other person and be able to see through their eyes.

This is not always an easy task. We have tend to have this little quirk of human nature in which we like to be right. Some of us just like it. Other folks have raised being right to a religion.

Seeing through the eyes of another

Try thinking of it this way - you chose this person, and more than likely interviewed a few people for the position right? So wouldn't it stand to reason to value how they see the world, even if it is different than the way you see the world.

This is one way we can begin to use our database of infomation about the other person. We do this by asking ourselves: "How would he/she see this situation, what I'm thinking about, what I just said" and so on.

You compliment and honor your partner by paying attention to and valuing how they see the world. And isn't this how you would like to be honored and valued as well?

Jeff Herring

Jeff is a marriage and family therapist, singles and relationship coach, mentor coach, speaker, syndicated relationship columnist and author.

Jeff has a full time private practice in Tallahassee in which he specializes in couples, teen and parent counseling. He also is a relationship coach specializing in working with couples and singles. Some of his professional activities include:

==> Internationally syndicated relationship columnist through Knight-Ridder/Tribune Media Services, with a weekly readership of over 10 million worldwide

==> Sought after speaker for organizations, associations, churches, and corporations

==>Twice weekly appearances on The Steve and Sara Show on Magic 107.1

==> Author of "Keep the Changes: 52 Tools for Successful Living" a collection of his best columns, as well as several e-books including "How to Create a Passionate and Loving Relationship.........Forever," "How to Beat the BOZOs: Dealing with difficult people without becoming one," and "Tame Your Teen: THE survival guide for parenting your teenager.

==> Founder and CEO of TheArticleGuy.com

==> Founder and CEO of SecretsofGreatRelationships.com

==> Founder and CEO of ParentingYourTeeanger.com

==> Founder and CEO of ToolsforSuccessfulLiving.com

==> President of BuildingYourIdealPractice.com

==> President of ConsciousDatingTallahassee.com